The Tastes of Love

For whatever reason it may be that a relationship goes sour, there will always be bitterness and regrets, and a roller-coaster of emotions whilst you're trying to get over it. But no matter how long or how treacherous the road to change may be, you owe it to yourself to move on. The world doesn't stop there. You've got to continue to live your life and learn from the mistakes.

Of course it's not easy. Nothing is ever easy when emotions are at stake. There will always be guilt and despair. There will always be hatred and yearning. There will always be times when you'd wished it never happened or you'd wished for a chance to turn back the hands of time.

But however you want to deal with the loss, just deal with it and don't turn yourself into a acerb, acerbic, acetous, acid, acidulous, acrid, acrimonious, afflictive, aggrieved, astringent, austere, bad, biting, bleak, calamitous, caustic, censorious, corrosive, crabby, cruel, cynical, distasteful, distressing, grievous, harsh, hostile, implacable, incisive, intense, irate, jaundiced, keen, malicious, mordacious, mordant, nasty, offensive, painful, pessimistic, piercing, piquant, piqued, poignant, rancorous, resentful, sarcastic, sardonic, scathing, severe, sharp, sore, sour, stinging, tart, unpalatable, unpleasant, vehement, vinegary, virulent, vitriolic, vituperative goat!

Feeding into these kinds of emotions can and will poison the real person that you are. It's more than just burning bridges with the people you love and the people affected by it. In the end, you'll be left with nothing other than the memory of destruction you did to yourself.

In saying this I don't mean that you ignore the feelings of woe. Take those feelings and turn them into something you can learn from.

I borrowed a few notes from an article regarding this issue. (Referenced on 27-Jul-2008 from the website http://katrinamariecoyoca.wordpress.com/tag/after-a-break-up/ by Cebuwriter)

Acknowledge and accept.
Acknowledge that there was indeed a break-up. Accept that fact. Acknowledge how you feel. You can start by telling yourself that the split is breaking your heart. And that it is making you feel bitter about things. Accept those truths. If you can’t be honest with yourself, then you are not helping yourself move on.

Why do you feel that way? This always works for me. Asking yourself this question allows you to deep digger on the prime causes of your negative emotions. Does the break-up make you feel unloved? Why are you still missing the person? Do you miss him ? Or, do you miss how it feels to be with him?

Know what you want. Ask yourself what you want to do after the break-up. Know which things you can do something about and which ones you cannot change. You have to know what you REALLY want. These wants will be your push to do something to ease your pain, and a path to moving on.
Get what you want. You just can’t sit there and think about what you want to do with your life. You have to stand up and do something about it. So you want to move on, so MOVE! Smile and live life the way you want to. And work your way to the things you want in life.