I Wanna Know What Love Is

Unconditional means without limitation, without restriction. It is outright; through and through. Unreserved; no holds barred. There should not be "and's, if's, or but's". Unconditional is unequivocal, unmitigated; never questioning.  Unconditional is to give and give and give.

"Unconditional Love is a dynamic and powerful energy that lifts us through the most difficult times.  It is available at any moment by turning our attention to it and using its wonderful potential to free us from our limitations.  It requires practice and intent to allow this energy to fully permeate our daily experience. It begins with ourselves, for without self-love, we cannot know what true love can be.  In loving ourselves, we allow the feeling to generate within us and then we can share it to everyone and everything around us!  That which we send out, returns to us in greater measure.  If you have not thought about how you feel towards yourself, physically, mentally, and emotionally, or spiritually, we invite you to do so now.  Begin the journey that changes everything.  Begin the journey of unconditional love..." (retrieved 14-Jun-2010 from the website http://www.thelovefoundation.c om/unconditional_love.htm)

This so called unconditional love has always been misconstrued. One would think that if the love is unconditional, it entails all kinds of pain and sacrifices. Shame. It shouldn't be that way. Unconditional love to be unconditional is to make the giver happy to give.

For love to be unconditional, it must be absolute, undoubting, unfaltering, unhesitating, unquestioning, unreserved, wholehearted. There will not be any remorse, or anguish, or grief, or guilt. None of these. None.

There shouldn't be "counting of the deeds" done for the beloved. I did this... and I did that... And what about me?! I suffer. I hurt. I cry. I need. Where then, is the happiness in this?

For when one professes unconditional love, it does NOT ask for anything in return. It does not hold back, nor does it hinder any growth. It does not whine over spilled milk just because things turned sour.

A broken relationship is not about who is right or who is wrong, for there is no right or wrong! It is about accepting what happened and learning from it - and moving on.

It is disheartening to see broken up couples SPAR because both needed to be alleviated from the pain. Thereby, they find recompense from mockery and derision. Is it really worth the effort to gain an edge by hurting the other person? Does it beget any kind of conciliation to throw the dart with the aim to punish? Will that patch the wound?

Disappointing. And even regrettable. Where is the dignity that is supposed to have barricaded all these foolish, if not ludicrous, display of retribution? Where is this powerful, oh-so-compelling passion that is supposed to have outdone all the misgivings? Where is this so-called UNCONDITIONAL LOVE...